Banjo Ebenezer

{“If malice or envy were tangible and had a shape, it would be the shape of a boomerang” (Charley Reese).}

An African proverb says, “When a sickle is drawn, it draws the tree on which it’s hung in turn.” An ‘Amen’, which is a word of affirmation, is not required when a preacher says, “You will reap whatever you sow.” – It is the law of nature. Newton’s third law of motion says, “To every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” To personalize the matter and bring it home, Ben Franklin asserted, “If you make others look better, it will certainly bounce back.” Someone else shares his own perspective; he said, “Love is like a rubber band, we keep pulling, someone let go of it, and it hurts the one who held on.” Giving and receiving are opposite words, but the unusual thing about them is that, wherever you find one, you’ll see the other. Mark Twain says, “Think about what you are giving as if you are the recipient”. If you cannot punch yourself in the face, don’t attempt it on someone else.

E.C. McKenzie in his astute way asked, “If revenge is sweet why does it leave such a bitter taste?” He also said, “Revenge is like a sword that wounds the one that wields it.” As someone puts it; he said, “Without retaliation, evils would one day become extinct from the world.” My best guess is that it is true. Negative or positive, actions are always recycled in the form of reactions. “An act of revenge is a new act of wrong” (anon). Too often, we don’t see how much our lives influence others which in turn influence ours. Pleased by how an anonymous philosopher says it; he said, “An action is like a hug, when given it comes back right away.” Sandy Hoenig in her book, The joy of forgiveness said, “Even though people have hurt you and you cannot forget it, you can be free from grudges, resentment, self-defeating habits, and negative feelings. Forgiving is the only way to stop the pain and bring hope for the future.” Mary Johnson’s son was shot and killed. She forgave the killer, got him out of jail and arranged for him to live next door.

When asked what motivated her; she said, “Un-forgiveness is like cancer. It will eat you from the inside out. It’s not about that other person, me forgiving him does not diminish what he’s done. Yes, he murdered my son – but the forgiveness is for me.” “Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation” (Roberto Assagioli)

Nature has its own way of forcing things into place. If for instance, you make food in preparation for visitors, and your visitors don’t show up. Don’t you end up eating the food by yourself? You know, the type and the taste of the food depend on the type of visitors you are expecting. You have done nothing short of entertaining yourself with the best you had in mind for your visitors! I hope you don’t wish you had prepared a better or a tastier food? As it’s often said, “As you lay your bed, so you lie on it.” The golden rule states that, “Do unto others as you’ll have them do unto you”.

The rule has not lost its potency; it’s as strong as ever. People say, “What goes around comes around”. In order to circumvent a miserable future, good parents do not just invest money into the future of their children; they also instill the necessary discipline to make them become good citizens. In return the parents do not only have rest and peace, they have built good legacies that will outlast their generation in the process. The proverbs says, “Train your child in the way he should go, and when he’s old he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22 vs.6). “If you set a trap for others, you will get caught in it yourself. If you roll a boulder down on others, it will crush you instead” (Proverbs 26 vs. 27).

In a polygamous home, competitions, tensions and jealousy among spouses is usually the order of the day. In an attempt to get rid of her step-son, she ends up killing her only child. This was the case of a woman married into a polygamous home. Her jealousy aroused from the fact the boy was performing academically better than her own child. So she prepared food for both her son and the older wife’s son. But for covetousness, her son ends up eating his own food and the poisoned food that was meant for his half-brother. She was caught in her own snare.

The aftermath was fatal. An African proverb says, “A bird that prays for rain will find itself soaked.” The story of Tim and Tracy his brother will help to illustrate. Little did Tim know he was building his own house when Tracy, his brother sent money to him to build a magnificent house in their home town. If the crimes of denial and betrayal have the same weight, the damage may be irreconcilable when the latter ensues between siblings. After two years in construction, Tim called his brother on the phone to let him know that he had completed the building project and that he needed to come see it. But Tracy would have none of that! He was well-to-do in the
city where he resides. All he told his brother on the phone was that the house is his. Since his plan was to make his brother financially comfortable, too. “Clear conscience”, as they say, “fears no accusation”. The news was not well received when Tim learnt that the house he built was rather his. Had he known, he would have used a mixture of water and sand, and not a blend of spittle and silt. The house was completed with less than half of the money Tracy had sent for the project. It was far from perfect; the materials used to build the house from the foundation upward were less than inferior.

The money meant for the project was diverted to riotous living. He made up things with the hope of telling his brother that the money sent to him could not do just better! “Do not throw a stone when your house is all made of glasses,” is an expression to abide by. This is probably because your relative could be one of the recipients of the ill-natured projected evil. Invariably, it may turn out that you won’t be able to defy the outcome of perpetuated vices. Without conflict, known is the fact that, good always comes back to those who do well. In the day of evil, the good deeds will speak on the behalf of the fellow. Though truth is bitter, it must be told however. “Falsehoods may have gone for a hundred year; it takes only one day for truth to catch up” (African proverb).

Watch what you wish others, it might boomerang!

What do you think?


Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

five × 4 =



Nothing But The Blood of Jesus